The Latest About Anxiety

Even though we suffer from anxiety, life still goes on. We need to find out how to control anxiety in order that we may still live and thrive. Most people that suffer from anxiety live normal lives. They have families, they work, they love, they raise children, they take vacations and they look like everyone else. The difference is, we may become anxious or suffer from a panic attack at any moment. These attacks can vary from complete debilitation to mild discomfort. Some people are able to hide their attacks and no one around them is the wiser. For an unfortunate few, the anxiety is so overwhelming that it controls their life and lifestyle and their behavior is completely based around their anxiety.

Whichever category you may fall under, just know it's possible to function even while you're experiencing anxiety. In the article, Dealing with Anxiety, you read about the fear scale. If you're an 8 or above, it becomes very difficult to concentrate on anything but your anxiety. For people in that category, it is extremely important that you work on different methods to bring your fear level down to a 7 or below, before trying part of the tactics in this article. You can manage that by medication, breathing techniques, exercise or meditation. The point is, be pro-active and work on lowering your anxiety fear level.

The Continuing Anxiety Discussion

Just to recap from a previous article, keep a journal in which you record daily what you feel your level of anxiety to be. 0 = No fear at all, completely relaxed, 10 = The worst fear you have already had, complete panic. 4 through 8 represent a discomfort zone of heightened anxiety levels that most people can still function through. If you find yourself in that zone, it is important to work voluntarily in that zone, with a view to reclaim your life from the anxiety monster. In other words, it is important to CONTROL ANXIETY, rather than anxiety control you. Remember also, you're changing the faulty wiring in your brain by not in response to the false alarm that is being sounded. You are training the way your body responds (the physical symptoms) to your anxiety. At first, this may seem very difficult, but overtime, you'll gradually notice the less credit you give your anxiety, the less effect it will have on you.

A big part of anxiety is our reaction to it. When anxiety triggers in our bodies, we experience physical symptoms. The second bite the anxiety monster takes is our fear of those symptoms. The less fear we have of those symptoms, the less control anxiety has over us. Only active practice will desensitize our nervous system.

Most people that experience a high level of anxiety (8 or above) find it very difficult to concentrate on anything but their anxiety. This makes it very difficult to use any of your calming techniques. That is why it's so important to practice, practice, practice! The time to practice isn't when you're in critical mode, but when you're experiencing mild to moderate anxiety. It is during those times that you control anxiety with your breathing techniques or meditation or whatever it's you have found that works for you.

If all else fails, remember this, this is unpleasant, but not dangerous. Let me say that again. If you're experiencing anxiety over a level of 8, it is unpleasant, BUT NOT DANGEROUS! You must remember that above all else. The feelings at this high level of anxiety are so overwhelming that it is quite easy to answer the false alarm your body is sounding by concluding that real danger is at hand. Look around you, is anyone else panicking? No? Then nothing is wrong, you're experiencing a false alarm, a few chemicals out of place in your sensitized brain.

An anxiety attack, it's like a false alarm from our brain to our body. When were in true danger our body's fight-or-flight mechanism kicks into action to get us out of harm's way. When we're experiencing anxiety attack symptoms we have that same rush of fear and terror and all the physiological sensations that can go along with it, like a racing heart, perspiration, tightening of the throat, and lightheadedness. The difference in an anxiety attack is that there's no immediate threat present.

If left untreated, anxiety attacks can reoccur forming a pattern that can give rise to an anxiety disorder. One of the worst effects of anxiety disorder is the increasing dread over when and where the next anxiety attack might occur. Dwelling on this possibility often triggers more anxiety attacks. It can become a frustrating cycle of apprehension and fear.

The good news is that anxiety is a very treatable disorder. There are many methods available to treat anxiety attacks. The most common are psychotherapy, medication (antidepressants or natural herbal treatments), relaxation techniques, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. A combination of at least two of these methods has proved to be the most effective.

I challenge you to face the anxiety monster head on. But, you may not win the ongoing war in one battle. It may take several times, even several months before you feel enough improvement to realize you're winning the war. That is why, before the battle even starts, have an out. Running from the anxiety monster never works. You may feel better. However, the monster knows it beat you. And you're training yourself to flee every time you face the monster. An out is different. An out is only a contract that you have done with yourself beforehand. You have agreed to respond to a break and to come back to the situation in a more manageable way in the very near future. If you do take an out, make sure and go back to the fight as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the harder it may be to return.

Use imagery to fight the anxiety monster on your terms. Visualize or imagine the place or situation that causes you anxiety. When the monster shows up, begin working on lowering your anxiety. Keep your eyes closed when you use imagery. Your out is opening your eyes. This exercise is under your complete control. Fight the monster and feel your anxiety levels lowering. If it becomes too much, open your eyes. You are safe, you're in control. Know before you begin an exercise like this, what exactly you're going to be done in order to fight the monster, know what your out is and know that you're in complete control.

Again, this takes practice. Stick with it and I guarantee you'll see results. Once you can control the monster using imagery, it is time to step it up a notch and search out the monster on his home turf. If for example you're having trouble driving, imagine driving while in a comfortable setting at home and to address your anxiety on your terms. Once you have complete control over your anxiety while at home, so it's time to take it a step further. Simply sit in your car in your driveway and start the exercise all over. Sit back relax, feel the anxiety as it comes on, once your anxiety level is 4 or over, start decreasing it. Once you have mastered this sitting in your car, go for a short slow drive in your neighborhood or find an empty parking lot and repeat the process. From there, find a place you can go a little faster and so on until you're driving on the freeway and control anxiety completely.

Several years ago I experienced a panic attack while driving down the freeway with my family in the car. I had to pull over and let my wife drive. It was a very embarrassing time for me to tell you the least. Even worse, I started experiencing anxiety every time I drove with person in the car.

Often it isn't even a driving anxiety, it could for that matter be a dread of being far from your home. If you're experiencing panic attacks while driving on a recurrent basis, have a look at exploring further and you may see a fascinating cause which may be leading to your anxiety attacks.

How do you get rid of your panic attacks while driving? You'll need to be prepared to develop a tolerance with it. It could be that the focus needed to drive is too mind-boggling for you.

When I finally had had enough, I decided to do anything about my problem. Using imagery, I sat in my favorite comfortable chair at home and closed my eyes. I called out to the anxiety monster and told him he was not going to bother me anymore. I focused my thoughts and began daydreaming about taking a drive with my family on the freeway. I tried to make it as real as I could in my mind. Admittedly, I had trouble staying focused at first. I could imagine being in the car and driving down the freeway. However, my brain wandered and I began thinking of other things. I was unable to bring up any anxious feelings and the monster didn't show up.

But, guess what? I stuck with it and tried again and again. Each day I tried again. Something happened, on the 3rd day. I was able to focus enough that I actually began to feel anxious. I pushed into those feelings and tried to increase my anxiety. I actually began to feel more anxious and finally I was experiencing an anxiety attack. There are two tell tale signs that I experience, for me. I get a lump in my throat and my palms sweat. Once I started feeling anxious, I continued to imagine driving and I began to calm myself with deep breathing (which I had been practicing for just a few months prior) and by calming myself using a mild form of meditation. Soon my anxiety disappeared.

Over the next two weeks, I was able to go from making myself anxious while imagining driving and then calming myself, to not being able to make myself anxious at all while imagining driving. I simply lost the fear of pretend driving. That was great. However, now it was time to try it for real. My first step was to drive by myself and seek to make myself anxious. The only time I became anxious is when I had other people in the car with me, for some reason. I never became anxious while driving alone. I used the same techniques that I did with the imagery, minus closing my eyes, as obviously that would not have worked very well. I went through the exact same process and after a few days, I could no longer make myself anxious while driving alone.

Remember what I said about baby steps? I decided that for my first drive that I would only take one other person with me. I did not want to overwhelm myself with a car full of people. My wife has been by my side through all of this situation and she was nice enough to volunteer to go for a walk with me. If I may, I would like to stray for a second and say, if you've got someone in your life that 'gets you. ' Recruit them if you can, it makes things so much easier when you've got another person on your team. Anyway, for our first drive, I decided to stay in the district and at speeds 20 MPH and under. I drove around for about ten minutes and realized the anxiety monster was not going to show up. I usually only experienced the attacks while on the freeway.

So, I called out to him and invited him to a fight. I used the exact same process that I did when I was sitting in my favorite chair (except for the eyes closed). And when he came to, I calmed myself and made him go away. By this point, I had done it so much, I felt in total control. I felt like I had a new super power, I could almost control my anxiety at will. This was very empowering for me because I had experienced anxiety in one way or another for over the past 20 years. I was doing so well, that at that moment, I decided to take my wife for a walk on the freeway.

During that trip, I actually had to think about being anxious, because it was not happening on its own. I know it sounds counter intuitive to try and make yourself anxious, but this was an important step for me, I had to indicate the anxiety monster who was boss. Try as hard as I may, I was only able to bring my anxiety level up to about a three. In any case, after being mildly anxious for a few minutes and realizing that I was not going to get any more anxious, I began my calming thoughts and literally within a few minutes the anxiety was gone.

I was so unprepared at that moment to experience anxiety that it actually caught me off guard. But that's the way it usually happens is not it? It often shows up when you least expect it to. At that moment, I actually felt a full blown panic attack coming on and my first thought, as it had been during the past was to pull to the right shoulder. I slowed down and moved into the slow lane and then I remembered all the practicing I had been doing. I suddenly realized what a great opportunity this was going to be for me to actually calm myself in the face of a real panic attack.

You see, all the previous times, it was easy because I had been working on it for just a few days in a row, but now, here I was a week later and I was caught unprepared. It was time to see what I was capable of. I do have to say, I felt very confident in my ability to lower my anxiety level, I had done it several times before and was fairly sure I could do it again. The first thing I did was to find my breathing under control. I started taking deep breaths, about as if I was trying to yawn (I actually did yawn a few times). As soon as I focused on my breathing, I realized that I was taking short rapid breaths, I never really noticed that I was breathing like that until I started focusing on my breathing.

My wife, who I love dearly, has always been very supportive with my anxiety. But, unfortunately at this moment, she actually became a distraction for me. You see, as I began to control my breathing, the next section of the process was to calm my mind. The problem was, my wife sitting close to me in the passenger seat was looking at me and began asking me if I wanted to pull over and let her drive. She was doing this because she wanted to help me. However, in fact it was distracting me from being able to calm my mind. I told her to get me a few minutes. However, within those few minutes she asked me several times if I was okay and if she had to drive.

The great thing about the way this happened is that it felt like real of a situation as it gets. Most of the other times that I had fought the monster, it was under controlled circumstances. But this time, I had the entire family in the car, I'm on the freeway, the panic snuck up on me and my wife will not stop asking me if I am okay. When I think about it later, I realize that was the perfect situation to fight against the monster in, because if I could beat him there, I could beat him anywhere.

I told my wife once again to give me a few minutes and I refocused on my breathing. I was already breathing pretty well, I had been practicing deep breathing for some time now and every time I did it, it was easier and easier to do. I began calming my mind with my breathing good. I used imagery for this. When I was a little girl, I had an uncle that used to take me fishing at a lake nearby. It was one of my favorite things to do as a child. Previously I had begun using that lake and that time with my uncle as my calm and safe place to be. In practice, I would imagine myself back at the lake with my uncle, it was very peaceful and restful and no harm could come to me there.

I envisioned myself on the banks of the lake with my eyes open (for obvious reasons). I was with my uncle and we were both fishing. The day was beautiful and warm, the lake was serene. I was at total peace and all was good. I began recalling minor details of those times, the way my fishing pole looked, the way the air smelled, the lunch that my aunt always packed for us. I realized how good I felt and how happy I was.

It was just a matter of minutes before I realized that I was fine and that the panic had left me as quick as it had shown up. My wife, who had been quiet for several minutes, finally spoke up and I will never forget what she asked me. She asked,' Why are you smiling? ' I had not even realized it. However, I had a grin spread across my face. As she asked this, I looked in the rear view mirror and sure enough, I had a smile on my face. I looked at my wife and simply said,' I made it go away. ' I have to say to you, that was one of the more powerful moments in my life. I suddenly felt like anxiety would never be a problem for me again.

Fast forward five years later and I have some retrospective comments to make. First, regrettably, it was not the least of my anxiety. I still to this day occasionally feel anxious. What I have come to realize is that it's never going to go completely away. But, and it is a big BUT, since that day I have never experienced anxiety over a four. Before I allow it to go any higher, I calm myself and bring it back down. I used to experience full blown panic attacks where I would suddenly stand up or stop what I was doing and feel completely lost and confused. I would think I needed to call 911. It was that bad, not anymore though and for that I am grateful.

The second thing I realized is this, the reason I was able to get my anxiety under control that afternoon driving with my family, is because of all the time and practice I put in before hand. You have to realize that the first time you try these techniques, they're not going to necessarily work. Especially if you attempt to use them while you're in full blown panic mode. You must practice your breathing, you must practice calming your mind, then and only then will it start working for you.

It is funny, this article actually took me a few days to write. This morning while I was dressing for work an interesting thought occurred to me. I lately had a job change within my work. This job change required that I start wearing a tie to work. I have always been horrible at tying a tie. So, I found a youtube video and learned how to tie a double Windsor knot. For the first month, while putting on my tie, I would take my I-phone and set it down before me and follow the video step by step. It was the only way I could successfully tie my tie in a double Windsor knot. This morning, as I have for the past few months, I was tying my tie while looking in the ice and I was amazed at how easy it was to tie a double Windsor knot. I watched as my fingers deftly maneuvered the tie until I was finished. I realized, just like my anxiety, I was only able to perform this task after several weeks of practice.

Isn't that just like everything in life? The more we do something, the better we become at it. No matter what you really want to accomplish in life, the more you try, the more you do it, the more you practice, the better you become at it. There is no difference with anxiety. It may take you weeks or even months. However, if you stick with techniques mentioned in my site you'll eventually master them and then you'll master your anxiety.

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